Episode 4

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10th Aug 2022

04: That's Such a White Thing To Do, Asians Don't Stop Talking To Their Family

How do you choose which aspects of your ziritage to embrace or release?

In this episode of the Asian Detox Podcast, TJ and guest Alisa Kay explore some of the big cultural clashes between Asian and American cultures from their own experiences.

Having the choice between two often quite different mindsets, expectations, priorities, and ways of doing life can be a gift, but it can also lead to confusion and uncertainty around identity and self-expression. In this episode Alisa and I share some of the major issues we’ve navigated, looking in depth at:

  • The “we-don’t-do-feelings” phenomenon prevalent in Asian families
  • Cutting parents from your life and the judgment around that choice
  • Asian family treatment of female-identified children and how that impacts our life choices and self-perception
  • Asian parents' expectations and traditions around dating, marriage, and kids
  • Navigating integration of our Asian and American cultures and breaking the cycle of Asian parent socialization with the next generation


“We’re lucky in that we get to pick the pros from both sides. Like I don’t like this Asian toxicity of “Family is everything” when the family is toxic so I’m going to go the American route of, it’s ok for self-care and to protect yourself to cut them out. We kind of weave in between what's good on the American side and what’s good on the Asian side.”


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About the Podcast

The Asian Detox Podcast
Reclaiming Asian American prosperity
Welcome to the ASIAN DETOX PODCAST, a podcast made for Asian Americans as we navigate life in two very different cultures, come to terms with our identity and share experiences of adjusting to a new way of being.

On this podcast, TJ Wey, a financial and abundance expert who is on track to retire by the age of 40, will share stories of people escaping the hustle culture in their lives and describing what that journey looks like for them.

As a financial expert, TJ's focus will be on the Asian money mindset, how to shift to an abundance mindset, discussing past money mindsets and how and if they need to be rewired and reframed and what - mind shift changes were needed when choosing the path of business over traditional career paths.

TJ is your #VeryAsian, non-binary, gluten-and-dairy-free money habits coach, helping Asian American small business owners escape the hustle culture and build their abundant life.

Zhi is on track to retire by 40, working independently and earning zir own way, after over a decade of working in corporate America as an IT Project Manager and following the Asian-Parent approved path.

TJ is known for zir work on Abundance and creating wealth systems that help others to reach their financial goals and desired lifestyle.

This is a bi-weekly podcast, with 12 episodes per season. TJ will be doing solo episodes speaking about zir own experiences as an Asian American, how zhi managed to be on track to retire by 40 and helping you understand how to create an abundant lifestyle that feels good to you and your culture. Zhi will also be bringing on guests to share their own shared experiences as an Asian American.

This podcast will leave you inspired, open your mind to understanding how much wealth is available to you and provide amazing lifestyle shifts that will help you feel great about your own culture while choosing to live a life that is off the beaten path.

We look forward to seeing you every other week

We hope that with this podcast you will come to realize that you can design your abundant life in a way that honors your heritage while enjoying a life of ease and alignment. And you can do it while making money and building generational wealth.

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TJ Wey

TJ Wey (zhi/zir) is your #VeryAsian, non-binary, gluten-and-dairy free money habits coach. After over a decade in corporate America as an IT Project Manager, zhi is on track to retire by 40. Zhi wants to help Asian American small business owners escape the hustle culture and live their abundant life through better money habits and financial foundations.