04: That's Such a White Thing To Do, Asians Don't Stop Talking To Their Family

How do you choose which aspects of your ziritage to embrace or release?

In this episode of the Asian Detox Podcast, TJ and guest Alisa Kay explore some of the big cultural clashes between Asian and American cultures from their own experiences.

Having the choice between two often quite different mindsets, expectations, priorities, and ways of doing life can be a gift, but it can also lead to confusion and uncertainty around identity and self-expression. In this episode Alisa and I share some of the major issues we’ve navigated, looking in depth at:

• The “we-don’t-do-feelings” phenomenon prevalent in Asian families
• Cutting parents from your life and the judgment around that choice
• Asian family treatment of female-identified children and how that impacts our life choices and self-perception
• Asian parents' expectations and traditions around dating, marriage, and kids
• Navigating integration of our Asian and American cultures and breaking the cycle of Asian parent socialization with the next generation

“We’re lucky in that we get to pick the pros from both sides. Like I don’t like this Asian toxicity of “Family is everything” when the family is toxic so I’m going to go the American route of, it’s ok for self-care and to protect yourself to cut them out. We kind of weave in between what's good on the American side and what’s good on the Asian side.”

TJ Wey

S1 E4, Asian Detox Podcast

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