Episode 12

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16th Nov 2022

12: My high school was toxic AF

Have your life choices changed since leaving home? Do you feel like it took you longer to work out who you really are and what you care about than some of your non-Asian American peers?

For many of us, the academic pressure we experience during our school years as Asian Americans leaves us no time to explore our identity and gain a deeper understanding of who we are and what we want. As a result, many of us make choices about the next steps in our lives that aren’t rooted in our desires (more often in our parents).

In the final episode of Season 1 of the Asian Detox Podcast, TJ Wey discusses zir experience of a toxic high school, the behaviors and habits that were fostered, and how for many Asian Americans gaining an understanding of who they are and what they want from life only happens when they have emancipated themselves from their family and community of origin, highlighting:

  • How growing up with the “model minority” stereotype as an Asian American can create a distressing experience of school that can leave scars
  • How “negative pride” stops us from asking for help and other unhealthy behaviors instigated by the model minority stereotype
  • The ambitious nature of Asian American kids and how it impacts our experience of education and ourselves
  • How the identity quest typically experienced during teenage years is often deferred to a later time in life for Asian Americans due to the pressure we face during our school years
  • The importance of balancing our ability to work hard with self-care and health-fostering lifestyle habits

“A lot of us changed dramatically from who we were in high school to who we are now. Some of us reclaimed our Asian names, some of us have come out since then - all of these things are things we should have been exploring when we were in high school and we didn’t have time, it wasn’t our priority - we pushed down our selves. We made ourselves so busy that we couldn’t be introspective, we couldn’t figure out who we were.”

TJ Wey

S1 E12, Asian Detox Podcast

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About the Podcast

The Asian Detox Podcast
Reclaiming Asian American prosperity
Welcome to the ASIAN DETOX PODCAST, a podcast made for Asian Americans as we navigate life in two very different cultures, come to terms with our identity and share experiences of adjusting to a new way of being.

On this podcast, TJ Wey, a financial and abundance expert who is on track to retire by the age of 40, will share stories of people escaping the hustle culture in their lives and describing what that journey looks like for them.

As a financial expert, TJ's focus will be on the Asian money mindset, how to shift to an abundance mindset, discussing past money mindsets and how and if they need to be rewired and reframed and what - mind shift changes were needed when choosing the path of business over traditional career paths.

TJ is your #VeryAsian, non-binary, gluten-and-dairy-free money habits coach, helping Asian American small business owners escape the hustle culture and build their abundant life.

Zhi is on track to retire by 40, working independently and earning zir own way, after over a decade of working in corporate America as an IT Project Manager and following the Asian-Parent approved path.

TJ is known for zir work on Abundance and creating wealth systems that help others to reach their financial goals and desired lifestyle.

This is a bi-weekly podcast, with 12 episodes per season. TJ will be doing solo episodes speaking about zir own experiences as an Asian American, how zhi managed to be on track to retire by 40 and helping you understand how to create an abundant lifestyle that feels good to you and your culture. Zhi will also be bringing on guests to share their own shared experiences as an Asian American.

This podcast will leave you inspired, open your mind to understanding how much wealth is available to you and provide amazing lifestyle shifts that will help you feel great about your own culture while choosing to live a life that is off the beaten path.

We look forward to seeing you every other week

We hope that with this podcast you will come to realize that you can design your abundant life in a way that honors your heritage while enjoying a life of ease and alignment. And you can do it while making money and building generational wealth.

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TJ Wey

TJ Wey (zhi/zir) is your #VeryAsian, non-binary, gluten-and-dairy free money habits coach. After over a decade in corporate America as an IT Project Manager, zhi is on track to retire by 40. Zhi wants to help Asian American small business owners escape the hustle culture and live their abundant life through better money habits and financial foundations.